Social anxiety disorder is an intense and persistent fear of being judged, criticised, or humiliated in social situations. It can impact many aspects of life, including relationships, education, and careers. This article delves into social anxiety from a cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) perspective, to explain its mechanisms and provide insight into how CBT effectively addresses it.
What is social anxiety?
Social anxiety disorder, or social phobia, goes beyond feeling shy or nervous before a presentation or meeting someone new. It is common for all of us to feel shy or to experience some social anxiety from time to time. However, people with social anxiety disorder experience overwhelming fear that others will notice their anxiety and judge them negatively. This fear often leads to avoidance of social situations or enduring them with significant distress.
Common symptoms of social anxiety
Some common symptoms of social anxiety can include:
- Fears of saying or doing something embarassing in a social situation.
- Worries about blushing, shaking, stuttering, or your mind going blank when in conversations with others.
- Feelings of anxiety when meeting strangers or interacting with people in authority.
- Worrying for days in advance about saying something foolish at a party.
- Overthinking if your comment was inappropriate after a casual conversation.
- Feeling very self-conscious, as though everyone is staring at you while speaking, eating, waiting at traffic lights, etc.
- An intense fear of being criticised by others.
- Avoiding social events, work get-togethers, or other situations with other people.
Some common fears reported by individuals with social anxiety include:
- “My mind will go blank, and I won’t know what to say.”
- “People will see me blush and know that I’m anxious.”
- “Everyone will notice I’m sweating or shaking.”
- “I will stutter or trip over my words.”
- “People will think I’m weird, odd, or inferior.”
What is the impact of social anxiety?
Social anxiety has a number of significant impacts on an individual’s life. These include:
- Increased risk of depression: Social anxiety often leads to feelings of isolation, low self-esteem, and hopelessness, which can contribute to the development of depression.
- Substance misuse: To cope with anxiety in social situations, some individuals may turn to alcohol or drugs, leading to dependency or addiction.
- Development of additional anxiety issues: Social anxiety can evolve into or coexist with other forms of anxiety, such as generalised anxiety disorder or panic disorder.
- Struggles forming and maintaining relationships: Untreated social anxiety makes it difficult to build meaningful friendships or romantic relationships, leading to loneliness.
- Social withdrawal: Avoidance of social situations can create a cycle of isolation, reinforcing feelings of exclusion and making it harder to re-engage with others.
- Problems in education: Fear of speaking in front of peers, participating in group work, or interacting with teachers may hinder academic success.
- Limited career opportunities: Social anxiety can prevent individuals from pursuing certain careers, attending interviews, networking, or advancing professionally.
- Difficulty in workplace interactions: Avoidance of meetings, presentations, or social events at work can limit opportunities for recognition or collaboration.
- Avoidance of new experiences: Fear of judgment or embarrassment might prevent individuals from trying new activities, pursuing hobbies, or enjoying life’s opportunities.
- Lack of personal fulfilment: Social anxiety can hold individuals back from fully expressing themselves, sharing their talents, or living authentically.
Treatment for social anxiety
Treating social anxiety can significantly improve quality of life by helping individuals build confidence, improve relationships, and reduce overall distress. Effective treatments include cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), medication, lifestyle changes and self-help, and group support. This article will focus on how CBT for social anxiety can be highly effective.
What Is CBT?
Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is a structured, evidence-based psychological treatment that helps individuals understand and change unhelpful thought patterns and behaviours. It is widely regarded as one of the most effective treatments for anxiety disorders, including social anxiety.
CBT involves several components, such as:
Identifying Negative Thoughts: Helping individuals recognise and re-evaluate the beliefs that fuel their anxiety.
Behavioural Experiments: Testing out fears in real-life situations to gather evidence and build confidence.
Skills Training: Learning new skills, such as assertiveness or attention training, to manage anxiety.
Gradual Exposure: Facing feared situations step by step to reduce avoidance behaviours.
CBT is practical and goal-oriented, providing individuals with tools to use long after therapy ends. It is also effective for addressing co-existing conditions, such as depression, panic attacks, and generalised anxiety disorder, which often accompany social anxiety.
Understanding social anxiety with CBT
CBT has a number of comprehensive frameworks for understanding what keeps social anxiety going. CBT for social anxiety is interested in identifying how specific cognitive and behavioural processes maintain social anxiety, creating a vicious cycle that reinforces negative beliefs and fear.
For example:
Negative self-beliefs
People with social anxiety often hold deeply ingrained beliefs about themselves, such as “I’m boring,” “I’m unlikeable,” or “I’m stupid.” These beliefs are often based on past negative experiences and fuel anxiety in social situations.
Self-focused attention
In social situations, individuals with social anxiety become acutely focused on themselves. They monitor their behaviour, physical sensations, and thoughts, using this internal information to infer how they appear to others. For instance, someone might feel their hands shaking and assume others think they’re nervous and incompetent.
Safety behaviours
To prevent feared outcomes, people with social anxiety use “safety behaviours.” These include actions like rehearsing conversations, avoiding eye contact, or speaking very quietly. Ironically, these behaviours often make them appear less approachable, reinforcing their fears.
Worrying before and after social events
Before a social situation, individuals may engage in extensive anticipatory anxiety, imagining worst-case scenarios and recalling past perceived failures. After the event, they often conduct a mental “post-mortem,” fixating on what they believe went wrong, further cementing their negative self-view.
How CBT addresses social anxiety
CBT for social anxiety can take many forms, but tends to focus on breaking the cycles of self-focus, safety behaviours, and negative thought patterns.
‘Testing’ negative thoughts
Therapy can help with identifying and questioning negative beliefs. For instance, someone who fears blushing and worries that others will view them negatively for blushing might be encouraged to examine the evidence for and against the belief that blushing leads to ridicule.
Attention training
Therapy can help teach a person ‘attention training’ exercises. This practise involves redirecting focus outward, observing others’ reactions rather than monitoring the self. This reduces distorted self-perceptions and anxiety, and helps a person to be more ‘present’ in conversations and the world around them.
Dropping safety behaviours
Individuals are encouraged to experiment with eliminating safety behaviours. For example, instead of rehearsing every word of a conversation, they might engage naturally and notice that their fears of judgement are often unfounded.
Behavioural experiments
Therapy involves testing predictions in real-life situations. For example, a person who believes they’ll be ridiculed if they stumble over words might intentionally make a minor mistake and observe the actual (often neutral or supportive) responses of others.
Video feedback
A person receiving CBT for social anxiety may watch recordings of themselves in social situations to compare their feared self-image with reality. This often reveals that their negative self-perception is different to what they see.
Addressing pre- and post-event worrying
Therapy helps individuals reduce anticipatory anxiety and post-event rumination by focusing on alternative, balanced interpretations of their experiences.
How effective is CBT for social anxiety?
CBT has been shown to be highly effective for social anxiety. For this reason, it is one of the frontline treatments for social anxiety recommended by NICE Guidelines and used in the NHS.
How CBT can help you
If social anxiety is holding you back, CBT can help you regain control and build a more positive relationship with social situations. If you are based in the UK, speak to your GP who should be able to refer you for CBT with your local psychological therapies team.
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Take the first step
If this article resonates with you, consider reaching out to discuss how CBT can help. Contact me today to schedule a consultation and take the first step towards overcoming social anxiety.
